I am merging relationships and peoples and personalities. I want my boyfriend to be my best friend and I want my ex-lover to be my gay platonic best friend and I want my best friend to turn into my boyfriend and beyond that, I am still not ready for 'commitment' and 'marriage'. I want to start with open then go to exclusive but not committed, then go to committed and then if I am ready, probably think about the future. Reminds me of Karate class where each belt has three degrees and then you graduate on to the next color. Different levels for each degree, different responsibilities, different moves, different opponents.
These are the lengths we go to, these are the rules we learn, to protect ourselves from getting hurt, to get the much-needed nod from waitresses, friends, saleswomen, strangers. Yet, the only people that benefit from this little video game, are sitcom writers and the actors. And shrinks.
These are the lengths we go to, these are the rules we learn, to protect ourselves from getting hurt, to get the much-needed nod from waitresses, friends, saleswomen, strangers. Yet, the only people that benefit from this little video game, are sitcom writers and the actors. And shrinks.
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I have been in this don't care mode for what seems like eternity, to protect myself from any kinda hurt.
You're right about the shrinks, my friend has pretty interesting stories to say about his patients.
I don't understand about the don't-care mode. In my opinion, the different checkpoints are to make it like a step-wise slooooow procedure because if you fall headfirst all the way in, 'dil toot jaayege' :) so, the little toe is put in the water to check the temperature, then a little more, little more...before finally diving in..or not!!
Yeah I agree, sounds foolproof. I'm just in the "enjoying the single again" phase and lazy to tax my tiny brains :)
But, but I were to ever, I would do it just the way you mentioned. Right now checking out the water vagaire is too much for a poor sap like me, hehe. Interesting post though, all of us have our own set of convoluted fundas, no?
Ya but the problem is these 'convoluted fundas' are close to becoming a standard, a norm. It's getting more and more difficult to the point where dropdown boxes have one more option besides 'Single', 'Married', 'Commited'...'It's complicated'
I don't quite agree with that. This situation, I feel, always existed. It's just that everything has become more open now, with the media, the open culture and the changes happening in our side of the world. What's a norm to you, to me, perhaps some others doesn't still reflect what society wants to accept as a norm.
My take on it is at quarter life stage, I am discovering more transitions (mentally) which could only grow more complicated or settle down eventually.
I think it's exaggerated by media. The silly first-date hug, second-date kiss, third-date sex rules, the ritual of saying 'i love you' and affirming 'we're now exclusive'; it's all become a painful procedure.
He didn't get me flowers for my birthday....is that a sign?
:)
Am I supposed to answer that?
First part, totally agree. Amen to that!
No, it was a hypothetical..
:) Thanks for 'amen'ing me, I love being agreed to!
For a change we agree on something :)
Thank goodness you confirmed, I was gonna answer that ;)
Ok, ANSWER IT! Now I wanna know.
It's always a sign.
:(
... that man was made for greater cause.
This is more like chatting yaar :)
I know, I was gonna say that the last time we posted comments that it's like scrapping. But you know what, it's my blog I can do what I want ;)
That be true. Hopefully your next post, either I wouldn't wonder or agree sooner. :)
For the records, I am out of my kinky mood, I had no answer in mind, just messing.
What?! But I already dumped him!!!
See this is the problem with smarty pant(s), either we've each taken off on totally different tangents or then you're messing with me now.
Or both.
:) I'll wait for your next post.
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