Sometimes I don't return calls. I pick up the phone, and go through the motions mentally. I have a rough skeleton of the entire conversation so, I yawn and rewatch a rerun of South Park.
Relationships, friendships plateau off endlessly because of time and space. Too much time spent together, or too little. Too much space in between me and her, or too little. Nothing to talk about, too much to talk about.
"We finish..."
"...each other's sentences!"
and that's why we clicked.
"I want to make friendship with you," I said, and we laughed and laughed and laughed until our sides hurt. But, in my defense, even a standup artist can be redundant in his acts. The jokes become predictable. I become predictable. The habits are cute, but the conversation isn't.
Soon, our friendships thrive on other lives. Pregnancy, divorces, secret boyfriends, births, accidents, rumors. Something new, something borrowed, something blue....
Now, I pick up the phone and go through the motions physically. Discuss, analyze, judge, agree, reconnect--reset.
Things must happen, information must be amassed to patch our lines. Otherwise, we are left reading about Sachin Tendulkar's broken toe for over a month in the headlines.
Strangely and maybe even rightly so, by general consensus the best of our very best bffs are the ones on that plateau with us. The 'I can be quiet when I'm with you, I can be myself' kinda buddies. The bored and boring kinda buddies.
The only way that I know of to fix this, is by careful manipulation of time and space. We meet after so long and yet, it's like we were never apart. How have you been? This was so much fun, listen, let's keep in touch this time...yes, yes, let's.
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4 comments:
Wow..you hit the nail and very very hard..
I did some thinking about this..What makes the relation interesting in the first place..I think it is the joy of finding something new everyday about the person..After a while, as you said, we become the i-know-her-best buddy and suddenly there is nothing more to know..
i guess the key is in finding something more within..something more about ourselves..it really is about knowing ourselves a little more than what we knew yesterday..
Thanks, I didn't think I'd be able to explain myself very well there...
Will have to think about what you said actually, that's interesting.
three months it has been... :-(
lol I realised that yday strange that you should post today. I'll get to it, just not having any wise moments lately haha
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